A lot of people who I talk to about self-love automatically think it is selfishness. I’m here to say from my personal experience that self-love has nothing to do with selfishness. In fact if you don’t learn how to love yourself first you can never truly experience what love really is. Love comes from within first and foremost and if you don’love who you are from head to toe it is impossible to experience true love in any other relationships you may experience throughout your journey here on earth.
You may be asking what self-love is really all about or what it looks like when someone truly loves their self. I believe that self-love is different for everyone, after all God created each one of us in our own unique way. Therefore, self-love for one person may be watching their favorite movie, spending time with family and friends, eating a favorite comfort food, or simply taking a day to themselves and relaxing in their pajamas all day. While for someone else it may be relaxing in a nice hot bath, getting a massage, doing something fun, or spending the day in nature. Whatever the practice is its important to take the time and care for yourself first so that way you can care for the others around you in a more unconditional loving way.
Our lives our mirrored back to us by people,places and things in our external environments. So when we don’t love ourselves first, then the people in our external environment will not be mirroring that love back to us because it doesn’t exist within us. Don’t believe me? Have you ever been involved in a troubled relationship, whether its with a family member, spouse, significant other, or close friend? Take some time to yourself and go within. Find out what it means to love yourself first , whatever that may look like for you, and I guarantee you your troubled relationships will change as if it happened over night. The love you have for yourself will automatically start displaying itself through your external environment, and your relationships with the people around you will be transformed in to healthier and happier ones.
I dare you to take the challenge. It’s been said that it takes 21 days to form a habit and 90 days to form a lifestyle. So if you are someone who has always done for others first, or would give the shirt off your back, so they say, to others. Take some time and focus on YOU and what it looks like to love yourself first and pay attention to the changes that occur within you and around you. I don’t think you’ll be disappointed!